Another Year of Love

Love has no time-frame but another year of it has come again. It is new hope. It is new life. You feel the coolness of flaunting it. You blossom like spring. You become warm towards it. And then you fall …

Finally, It’s Valentine’s Day!

The day of love has finally arrived. Weeks and months of preparation for one special day; this is the day the words “I Love You” mean something to many…

What makes it all the more special than other days? This day is celebrated by most people throughout the world, wholly from the heart, willingly. The world is filled with love and I am sure if there was a telescope invented to see emotions from space, today the view of the earth will look like one big heart-shaped red cookie. It could look like a red velvet heart-shaped cake, too.

What’s so special about being in love? You get to be happy, joyful, and grateful and feel beautiful. You see hope and happiness in everyone and everything around you. Most importantly, you see love around you. Holding of hands, a little cuddles and mumbles of a sweet something… Everything is heart-shaped indicating love with red, pink and like colors of affection. You feel like gifting and you are more excited on receiving gifts, so much more than you were excited on your birthday. You realize love is for everyone, young, old, elite, poor, fair, and dark. This positive feeling has a reason to be manifested and that reason is purely and solely to love.

Love is beautiful, rare, precious, kind, caring, surprising, sacrificing, generous, and pure. It is not envious, hurtful, angry, revengeful and cunning. It makes odds meet and hearts collide in togetherness. The feeling is mutual and if it is not, it is not love.

True Love is complete only when it is shared with that one significant person made to love you in return. It is built on a foundation of trust, understanding, communication and space.

Find your special someone this Valentine’s Day and love him or her in return unconditionally.

Happy V-Day!

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Love Makes You Sick?!

Are you love-sick? I am not talking about sick as in a disgusted manner. You may feel like you have lost appetite for any kind of food. You do not get sleep. You may cry for someone who doesn’t even know you exist. You may have swollen eyes, eye bags or dark circles that make you lackluster. You may experience all these when you are in love with someone. However, let me break the spell…

It is all in the mind. You think it is love that is causing you to feel this way but it is not. It is just that you are occupying your mind with thoughts of the person you love. So much that you tend to ignore your hunger and thirst. You deprive yourself of sleep in order to wakefully think and picture your sweetheart. At times, if you are in a relationship, you do not leave that person’s side even for a minute. You desire to speak with him or her either to calls or messages throughout the day and night. Sometimes, it could be senseless chatting but you continue only to hear his or her voice or know that that person is available to respond to your mindless chats. Many times, it is just the initial phase of a relationship where you both are getting to know each other. However, in the process of knowing each other, you are forgetting your daily requirements, like taking a shower, eating, drinking water to hydrate your system, etc.

Moreover, you get so engrossed in building this one relationship that you forget all other relationships, like family, friends and other loved ones. People around you feel neglected by you while you wholly consume your time with one person in your world.

Ask yourself – Is this really love? Is love that inhumane that you forget the world and your own life? It is the initial phase of a relationship that helps you find out whether the relationship is for keeps. Love comes in life at some point. It is not life. You can live beyond love, as well. Give equal priority to your lover, family, friends and others, as well as your body that needs nutrition to survive and love.

This Valentine’s Day do not ignore your life because of love. Love and life can co-exist. Do not make yourself love-sick.

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It’s Going To Be Winter Valentine’s Day!

Just when you think you can go out with your beau or babe, you hear the weather conditions and get disappointed. Well, think of it this way. Probably, nature is conspiring to encourage you to have a weekend indoors with your special someone. You can have a delicious home-cooked meal with your loved one at your cozy place in the midst of winter wonderland.

This is not only for the readers who have been trapped indoors due to stormy, rainy, or snowy weather conditions around the world. This is for everyone who desires to celebrate a beautiful Valentine’s Day, without worrying about the weather.

Home-cooking together with your sweetheart is more exciting than rambling around nooks and corners to find a restaurant for just a different taste. Going to a mall also means just window-shopping or buying something really expensive that may not even be worth the bucks. Movie in a theater is more like publicly displaying affection towards your loved one with onlookers peering for a glimpse of your romance. So, why not have all of these experiences under one roof (without disturbance)!

A fun idea of an indoor date on Valentine’s Day would be this. Firstly, you and your beau or babe rummage through some old stuff in the house (depending on whose house the date is at) and gift a belonging to him or her from the stuff you find most memorable. Treasure hunt also works to build up excitement. Next, you can make some easy instant popcorn and sit to watch a movie (not necessary a romantic movie). Make sure you discover or consider a movie he or she would like to watch. It’s important that both of you enjoy the movie. I love Rom-com movies on Valentine’s Day. Anyway, thereafter, you can cook a decent and innovative meal with a helping hand from your lover. It can be a recipe from the cookbooks your mom left around or from over the internet or something just out of the refrigerator and on the plate, in a presentable manner. It could even be heart-shaped jam sandwich. The best way to end this romantic day is with red wine and chocolates.

That is just an idea. But, you could create some date like this if you are stuck indoors on Valentine’s Day. Make it fun and exciting, and not monotonous this season. You don’t always get a Winter Valentine’s Day. Make the most of it. Make it memorable. It might just boost your relationship quotient.

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And The Countdown Begins… For Valentine’s Day!

When February comes around, all you can think of is Valentine’s Day; the Day of Love; the Day of Finding Love. How open are you in finding love?

Are you looking for that special someone… with a list of qualities you desire to share… to find a match in the likes and dislikes? Hope you have heard about the famous saying, “Opposites attract”. You are on one side. You can find him or her on the opposite side for sure, if not the same side. He or she is out somewhere, but you are probably looking for love in the wrong places.

Stop carving the list of your most desirable. You are probably just blocking the possibilities of being loved by someone really special. Instead appreciate the hints life gives you about one particular person. Does he or she make you happy? Do you laugh at her or his jokes (genuinely)? Does your heart skip a beat on seeing him or her every time you both meet or simply come across each other?

Love will show its way once you open the gate to your heart. The countdown to Valentine’s Day begins today… But do not make it your ultimatum to find someone before of by this day. You may have to spend Valentine’s Day alone, if you do not have that special someone, as yet. However, it may or may not be your lonely day. Go out… Make yourself happy… You may just stumble upon love this year, even if it is after the “Big V-Day”. Don’t lose hope.

Love yourself first, to be loved by someone else.

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Would You Live, Kill Or Die For Love?

At TED2006, Helen Fisher said in a talk on LOVE, “Some people live, some people kill and some people die for love…” My question to you is – What would you do for love? Would you live, kill or die for love?

I know that I live for love. I would never kill for love, because I believe that then it’s not love; it’s just a selfish motive of wanting someone or wanting attention from someone. I would not die for love either, as that would not help me know whether that person who I’d die for is fine in my absence, happy or does not love me anymore; nor would I want to seem as a coward, who could not get love, so died for it.

I would totally live for love; see it grow and cherish through my partner and my offspring. Love is something you live for, not kill and die.

I have heard of so many instances where individuals kill for love. Look at the world around you. I don’t just mean literally kill someone with a knife, a gun or any harmful weapon. I mean through your words and your deeds, you can kill someone. When someone shows you affection, if you can’t reciprocate it, at least don’t ridicule it. It kills that person in an instant. If you don’t want to give them love in return, there is a nicer way to put it. Do not shun them away, by saying or meaning to say that they are ugly or not worth anyone’s love. That will kill them, too. Moreover, it would kill their souls each time they look at their reflection.

I have also heard of cases wherein people die for love. For what? Because they have been rejected or their family does not approve their relationship or they are forced to part ways due to some odd reason… That does not mean that they should choose the path of death. Love is challenging, but “never give up” should be your motto.

When in love, don’t be a fool.

Now, once again, I ask you – Would you live, kill or die for love?

Share the desire kept deep within your heart…

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Do You Fall In Love To Cheat?

You get attached to a person. You fall in love. You want the person in bed with you. These are all different notions. They do not necessarily come together, at all times. But, when they do, you experience an intense surge of emotions.

Helen Fisher, a renowned Anthropologist, in her talk at TED2006, “Why We Love, Why We Cheat?”, gives us a beautiful insight and a new perspective to love. She has inspired me; and I’d love to share her talk with you.

Did you know you experience immense mood swings when you fall head over heels for someone? Not literally, but it’s true. In her talk, Fisher throws light on the scientific reasons and symptoms of falling in love.

Fisher conducted a research to identify the change in bodily functions and emotions when a person is in love. She always thought that love was a series of emotions. However, through her research, she discovered that it is a drive in the brain, and it is more powerful than the sex drive.

Moreover, she also reminds us that the sex drive is responsible for one being sexually inclined or sexually possessive about their partner or the person with whom they desire to satisfy their sexual urges.

However, when you are in love, you crave for the person sexually as well as emotionally. Fisher adds that love motivates you; and I agree with her. If you are in love or sexually attracted or emotionally attached to someone, you want that person to see and know the best of you. You do things or say things to show that you are better than anyone else; and they have made the right decision by choosing to be with you. You display your best side to attract their attention.

How is love different from the sex drive? Well, Fisher explains that love is one of the three different brain systems. These systems are the sex drive, through which you desire to be with more than one partner; romantic love that compels you to focus on only one person; and attachment that makes you tolerate a person even though love has flown out the window.

There are a lot of other things that Helen Fisher talks about in “Why we love, why we cheat”. You should check it out. Here is a link to this incredible TED Talk – http://on.ted.com/p0TJq.

So, now what do you think? Do you fall in love to cheat or is the sex drive overpowering romantic love?

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A Successful Relationship

Everybody wants their relationship to be a victorious one. They want it to be unique and explicit. They would do whatever it takes to save their relationship in rocky times and keep it going. Material things, sexual pleasure, and attention are all a part of giving in a successful relationship.

However, the most important ingredients of a successful relationship are Love, Understanding, Trust, and Loyalty towards your partner. These factors may save or break a relationship. Too much of Love in a relationship can suffocate your partner. As a result, you may get dumped. If there is no understanding in the relationship, fights and arguments are bound to take place. Thus, it may lead to a break-up. Do not trust your partner so much that you blind yourself to the unacceptable deeds of your partner. If you are not loyal to your partner, do not expect him or her to be loyal to you.

It is said that Love is blind, but I believe it is deaf and dumb, too, now-a-days. Because, in most unsuccessful relationships, the weaker person does not voice his or her opinion to the dominant better half, demand any answer for an unacceptable action, or disregard uncertainties.

In order to save your relationship or not let it get to the finishing line, you have to do what is required of you. Love your partner but do not be so possessive that you do not let him or her have their space. Understand why they behave in a certain manner and reason out situations with a calm mind. Exaggerating negatively over petty issues will worsen it, so much that you will not be able to save your relationship. Trust your partner enough to distinguish what is right and wrong. Your loyalty and faithfulness should be the essence of your partner’s commitment and fidelity.

Finally, to save your relationship, you have to work towards it and not against it. Be true to your partner and respect your partner as well as your relationship. Being in a successful relationship is the most beautiful thing that can ever happen to you, so cherish it and live it the right way.

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“Will You Be My Valentine?”

Romantic Love is of great acclaim during the month of February. This is because Valentine’s Day is celebrated on the 14^th day of February. We recall Saint Valentine on this day. He was a preacher of love, who brought hearts together, and performed weddings of forbidden lovers of his time. This day is, ideally, devoted to love, expressed by lovers almost worldwide.

However, now-a-days, people not only celebrate this day with their lovers, but also with their loved ones, such as parents, family members, and close friends.

Moreover, in times of today, gender has no boundaries just as love has no boundaries. We have gays, lesbians, and bisexuals, as well, celebrating this day of love. We also have the old and the young appreciating this day. It is beautiful to see almost the whole world in love on one day. Today…

As we celebrate Valentine’s Day, lovers show their love for each other through materialistic things that symbolize love, affection and appreciation, such as chocolates, flowers, pastries, greeting cards, and so on.

Now-a-days, symbols of Love are represented through heart-shaped stuff, cupids, and doves. The creative crowd make things to gift their Valentine, such as food items, handmade cards, etc. The rest of the crowd resort to purchasing a suitable gift that their lover either longed for or needs.

However, love is not only expressed through the offering of worldly pleasures, but it can be expressed through a thoughtful deed, love-filled words, affectionate gestures, and the like.

Nevertheless, not all people commemorate this occasion. There are the brokenhearted, the faith-departed, and the pragmatic crowd that prefer to keep themselves engaged in other activities rather than getting involved in this merriment.

Although, the fact remains that love is a beautiful feeling that cannot be defined through mere words. This day is one of the best times of the year to convey heartfelt desires and feelings to your partner or the special person you love.

So, why keep in your heart what’s on your mind?

Say it out loud to the person you love…

“Will you be my Valentine?”

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“I Love You”

“I love you” – a simple line but very meaningful. Now-a-days, this phrase is used for anyone and everyone. It is no more special or for a special person. You say it, when someone says something pleasant to you. You say it, when you receive a desired gift from a friend. Today the question is not – “When do you say those three magical words?” Today the question is – “When do you NOT say those three words?”

Expressing love is a thing of the past. Today, more than words, actions count. By actions I mean as such – couples holding hands, pulling their partner close, sitting close to each other, hugging, and so on. But ask yourself if this is love, what about that feeling that needs to awaken from within you? Don’t you feel love anymore? Is it only about sex or the sense of touch? You need to find out for yourself.

You may read a lot of books or see several movies on love, but when love happens, you won’t even realize it. You turn blind. Probably, that’s why the saying goes – “Love is Blind”.

Nevertheless, you may even wonder how you will know when love happens. Love happens in the most strangest of ways, in the most expected times, and in the weirdest of places. It may be a train, a bus, a traffic signal, at a shopping arcade, or even the elevator. No one needs to tell you that you are in love. You will feel it deep within you. It will generate positivity in your heart and mind. You will experience the goodness of life when you are in love.

Love has no bounds. It is beyond perfection, plenitude, and time. No age, caste, or religion can stop you from being in love. If you and your partner trust each other and be faithful towards your relationship, love will fight all odds to make it last forever.

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